unforgiveness-victim or victor?

What's brew'n soup troop? I heard something real powerful the other night about unforgiveness. Basically, he said that holding grudes makes you a victim to the person your holding the grudge to. I thought about it for a second and it is 100 % true. I thought about how some people are "victims" of anger and grudges to some people who-quite frankly-don't either KNOW or CARE that you don't like them or have those feelings towards them. You can't and won't grow if your holding a grudge against someone. I remeber having someone at work that I got into it with one time and sometimes the thought of seeing them enraged me. When it gets to that point, you need to repent and work things out with that person. When you are a victim, you are helpless! I wasn't raised (nor were you) to be helpless. Sometimes it's the internal rather than the external problems that really give us a hard time. Unforgiveness can creep up on you. It's like a wound that hasn't truly healed. When you learn to forgive, you can be the victor. When someone knows whatever they do to you can't get to you....they lose. Don't even give your enemy the joy of taking your joy. Stop being a victim of grudges and anger and being a slave to it. Be a victor not a victim. Spread the soup